Raise a glass!
5 tips for giving toasts
by Catherine Welborn
Warm weather has arrived and with that comes wedding season. With weddings, of course, come toasts. If you’ve been asked to toast the bride and groom, follow these tips to deliver a memorable and endearing message:
- Wait your turn. Traditionally the host of the event starts the toasts. However, gone are the days when you could assume that the rehearsal dinner is hosted by the groom’s parents and the wedding is hosted by the bride’s. You may find yourself at a wedding hosted by both families—or by the bride and groom. In those cases, it’s best to clarify your place in line before the big day.
- Have a commanding presence. Stand tall with your shoulders back. Hold your glass in your right hand. Speak loudly and slowly. Most important, refrain from drinking alcohol before your toast. Even a practiced public speaker can appear sloppy and tasteless while under the influence.
- Make eye contact. Look at the couple and then glance around the room. At the end of your toast, return your eyes to the honorees.
- Be personal—but appropriate. Sharing a specific anecdote is a great way to make your toast meaningful, but remember that weddings are family events. Stay away from stories that will make Grandma blush or Aunt Carol cover little Tommy’s ears. And make sure your anecdote is flattering of the couple. Don’t embarrass them by bringing up exes or embarrassing moments from their pasts.
- Keep it short and sweet. A good toast need not be longer than two minutes. Best man and maid of honor speeches are the exceptions. Those can last between five and 10 minutes. As a general rule, though, shorter is better. Signal the end of your toast by raising your glass. After guests have clinked their glasses and taken a sip, return to your seat.
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